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Jake & Kandy
Due to interferance via an unforseen custody battle we've been asked to change the identities.
the names have been changed to protect the innocent going through a custody hearing
In no way does this mean that we believe this abuse did not happen and that the issues formerly stated here were dealt with
or untrue.
Because Jake has been forced by the oposing side to enter the ring of a court custody battle, Kandy's issues have to be put
aside due to the fact that we are being told that this information can stop any and all visitation between Jake and Kandy.
LoveCry's position here is not of disbelief either. We are working for Jake and if he is being ordered to drop the issue then
we must comply.
In the city of Toronto if you say you are being abused you are forced to keep it quiet. That is precisely why LoveCry does
not take any form of City funding. We need our voices raised loud in order to stop abuse.
Please pray for Jake and Kandy.
Blessings
Angel
Director of LoveCry
THE CATHOLIC CHILDREN'S AID SOCIETY'S
NEGLIGENCE OF CHILD ABUSE
I would recommend that if you have any reason to beleive that your children are being abused is to deal with it yourself and
do not report it to C.C.A.S until you are sure try taking your children to a child therapist to have the child assesed for
abuse because if you bring it to C.C.A.S before having proof they turn it into a he said she said battle and it will break
the family apart for good because all they do is judge the situation without having the knowledge to do so meaning Child psychology.
Did you know C.C.A.S, C.A.S (Catholic Children's Aid Society, Children's Aid Society) workers are not recommended to have
any background in child psychology even though their jobs are to deal with young children in trauma situations how can they
make the best recommendations for the safety of our children when they don't understand the child mind.
How can we parents feel safe that are children are been treated the way they deserve and need if the C.C.A.S,C.A.S workers
are not trained in how the child's mind works especially since they meet with the child maybe once a month so they don't really
have the time to grow a bond with the child, so they already don't know the child that well or how the child reacts in situations
so how can they make proper recommendations for the safety of our children with no background in child phychology.
And on top of that there against therapy especially since it might prove them wrong because a child therapist has a better
understanding of a child in need then the workers at C.C.A.S, C.A.S, but because they can not look past there pride that they
might be wrong they will try to convince anyone that you try to get help from that your playing a game, for instance they
where telling everyone that it was a custody issue and that he was just trying to get custody even though custody was already
been set for split custody that is why he could not get his child therapy on his own because they needed the mother's signature
and the mother refused to sign consent for therapy even though it was recommended by the Hincks Delcrest Center for the best
interest of the child and C.C.A.S sat back and said they legally can not force the mother to sign and thought nothing of
it. C.C.A.S also told him that therapy would hurt the child but the society will keep talking to the child and that will
not hurt but a child therapist who understands the child mind would hurt the child.
Here is a report from the children's lawyer, "Dr. John stated that the current joint custody arrangement is abusive to Kandy
and he recommended that Kandy be placed with Ms. Core. Dr. John advised both parents that the joint arrangement was emotionally
abusive to Kandy."
KEEP IN MIND Dr. JOHN HAS NEVER MET WITH ME OR EVEN TALKED TO ME ON THE PHONE
"On November 23, 2005, the matter was presented again to Dr. John. Dr. John stated "I am alarmed by this man(Jake), you can't
predict him." He stated he was concerned about the safety of Ms. Core and Kandy. He stated that with regard to Jake "the game
is up and he will be even more dangerous." Dr. John felt that Jake is unpredictable, may have a paranoid base and be capable
of homicide. Dr. John felt this should be on the record."
"Dr. John is is psychiatric consultant with C.C.A.S. In a telephone interview with Dr. John on December 1, 2005, Dr.John prefaced
his discussion by saying that he had not met either parent nor had he seen the child. His opinion on the case was based on
imformation he had received from the C.C.A.S.
The children's lawyer only has one paragraph of information from Dr. Kudrym who is still working with me but has several
paragraphs of information and opinions from Dr. John who is only going by rumours, trying to slander my name so that C.C.A.S
doesn't look as bad for not helping the situation, so C.C.A.S is trying to point fingers so that the truth stays hidden, that
they neglected a child in need.
Children's Lawyer's report:
"the attached clinical notes by Dr. Kudrym, Jake's psychotherapist, dated December 1, 2004 to October 12,2005, describe issues
presented to Dr. Kudrym by Jake and Dr. Kudrym's clinical impressions. The notes indicate that Jake has been seeking supportive
counselling regarding his concerns that Kandy may have been sexually abused and describe his discontent with the response
from the C.C.A.S. Dr.Kudrym's notes indicate that Jake thought content and thought process are within normal limits. The notes
make no indication of self-harm or harm to others. In the dispute of the Children's Lawyer we have found that in my Psychotherapist
reports that it does indicate that I would not harm myself or others.
I love you
Jake
C.C.A.S negligence of child abuse
C.C.A.S essays
article's from canadacourtwatch
Hincks-Dellcrest child worker charged by police for kiddie porn(August 16, 2006) Court Watch has received complaints about
the Hincks-Dellcrest Centre in Toronto in regards to parent's complaints about biased custody and access assessments. According
to this recent newspaper article it would seem that Hincks-Dellcrest Centre may have the same problem as many CAS agencies
do in recruiting reliable and competent workers. Robert Fedoruk, a worker with the Hincks-Dellcrest Centre has been charged
for having child porn on his computer. The Hincks-Dellcrest Centre received referrals from the CAS and the courts in regards
to cases involving children.
Link to article in PDF format
If you or someone you know has experienced problems with this worker or any other worker with the Hincks-Dellcrest Centre
then Court Watch would like to hear from you. Contact Court Watch at info@canadacourtwatch.com or call us by phone at (416)
410-4115.
The Catholic Children's Aid society
Needs To Tell Us All!!!
You know what really gets under our skin is that the Catholic Children's Aid Society's do not take any responsibility for
there actions. For one example, the Jeffrey Baldwin case where Jeffery was starved to death by people chosen by The Catholic
Children's aid Society to care for Jeffery.
The Catholic Children's Aid Society refused to answer questions to the Fifth Estate and much worse they refused to co-operate
with the Police Detective working to resolve the situation.
The only response from The Catholic Children's Aid Society was to write a letter of apology to express there concern.
Our belief is that if The Catholic Children's Aid Society actually were sorry for their mistakes n being partially responsible
for the starvation of Jeffery Baldwin, The Catholic Children's Aid would not be so deeply trenched in avoidance of the questions
that so badly need answering for everyones peace of mind.
Why is Jeffrey's worker still working for the Catholic Children Aid Society? The incident proved itself that she does not
have the capability to look after children. It's not like Jeffrey death was an accident. Jeffrey was starved to death over
a period of years. The murders were even convicted and sentenced
Why is it that only this past February 2006, that The Catholic Children's Aid Society made it a law to do criminal background
checks on the foster family?
So what about all the other children stuck in the system, who's workers and caregivers were hired before the background checks
were in effect:
Are they going to be checked? Have they been?
What is going to be done about that?
Are any of those kids being or been: abused mentally, physically, emotionally, sexually?
Do we have to wait until some of them are dead or totally screwed up in many other degrading ways for life?
Does this mean that these children are not in trouble?
Or did they even check that out?
If you have a complaint against Catholic Children's Aid Society you have to follow there procedure which is, meet with your
worker, then meet with your worker and supervisor, then the branch manager, then the executive director, then to board director
then to the ministry of children and youth service but my main concern is that no one outside the agency has any jurisdiction
over Catholic Children's Aid Society especially since they have proven to support there workers even if a child dies.
So how can we trust that are concerns for are children are really being heard, and if Catholic Children's Aid Society had
nothing to hide and truly did not believe the children in there care are being abused why would they be so concerned with
the ombudsman or anyone for that matter getting the Wright to investigate complaints against the Catholic Children's Aid Society.
We at LoveCry are presently building a Memorial site for Jeffery and will disclose the address as soon as it is completed.
This site will include some of the best articles written by our Media. Thank you All for any and all support during this hell.
Jeffery Baldwin is Angel's cousin so this case and problem truly hits our hearts at LoveCry.
Please Help Us Get Abuse Stopped!!!
Blessings
Jesse Wilson and
Angel Femia
LoveCry
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To The Premier of Ontario
Our Children Need Protection From The Protectors
Jesse Wilson
and
Angel Femia
of
LoveCry
We are writing this letter in regards to all the Children's Aid Society's and the request from the ombudsman to be able to
investigate complaints against the society.
We find it absurd that the Society would pu up such a fight not to have someone outside the agency seeing what is going on
when its for the safety of our children considering what happened in the Jeffrey Baldwin case and many others.
Jeffery was starved to death over a period of years, and the worker still has a good pay check, respectability and a solid
position at the society.
Because the Society is putting up such a fight not to have anyone outside the agency look in to any of the deadliest cases
makes us wonder how much of what there saying is true. In Jeffery's case we and many others believe that the Detective in
charge was denied the full content of information to proceed properly with the case in of itself. We believe that the Society
workers on Jeffery's and many others cases should have had to face charges of neglecting their duties as official Society
workers.
We believe that the Society should be held accountable for their part of their responsibility within the situation regarding
Jeffery's and others whom have died in their care.
It is true that if you have a complaint against the Society you have to go to your worker then the worker and supervisor than
the branch manager than the executive director than a meeting with the board of directors than to the ministry of children
and youth services These organizations are all under the same roof all have different ways on saying the same thing, but your
not aloud to voice your concern to anyone outside the agency.
When you do voice your opinion they discredit you. They lie on reports about what people actually say. The quotes get twisted
enough to allow the worst impression to be judged by our lawmakers. (If any of the people being quoted on the Societies paperwork
actually testified to what was truly said any judge would see the difference, of course we are never called to speak). Therefore
if a worker does not like you, you loose your children or parents and in many cases these Society workers are believed, not
through earning this trust but because they are Society workers..
Just last weeks at LoveCry a few of us walked into a meeting with a new mother and a Society worker. The Worker was threatening
her and using gossip to do so. There was no fact at this point, only jealous gossipers angry and wanting to hurt this girl.
(She is no perfect child but is not anywhere near as rotten as the society has on their paperwork). This girl got scared an
lied and thus gave the Society a reason to take the new borne infant. (the Society worker terrified this girl and scared her
into lying. Several of us witnessed this incident).
If the Society truly believe that what they are doing are the right procedures to ensure the safety of our children why would
they be so concerned to have someone outside the agency investigate parents complaints.
We find this very concerning since they have proven to stand by their workers even if a child dies.
They recently made it a law this February 2006 that it is mandatory to do criminal background checks so what about all the
children before this date just because their not dead does not mean they don't need our help.
It is up to us, the parents to stand up to this system for our children's future and our own if we don't speak up now they
will continue to do what they want even if it's not for the best interest of the children as we witnessed in 2004 when Jeffrey
died in the care of convicted child abusers, ( and there were many other before Jeffery).
The fact that many of the Society workers do not have psychological training or personal experience. (many not even having
own children). There Society workers are not required to have a degree in child psychology so how can they really know what's
best for the children.
Our children need someone outside the agency to ensure their safety and as parents it is our responsibility to make sure the
needs of our children are met.
Our children also need people in better states of mind to help the entire family heal. Most times when a child is being abused
either the parent is just doing what they have learned in life and do not know this is abuse or they are repeating an abuse
pattern that goes way back and was never addressed.
We believe that the best place for any child is with their families but if the family is in trouble, the family needs help.
Maybe we will find that the problem lies within the fact that the family needs help for abuse issues not just the children.
The idea here being work to keep the families healthy and standing not just take children away.
Many of our families would welcome the help from someone who is non-threatening, non-judgmental and more open minded caring
with this help.
How much longer are we going to allow the Children's Aid Society's to tell us our children are lying or their making up things
to get our attention, (when they tell us they are or have been abused). Then the best answer they can find is to tell us that
our children need to get away from us or be put on drugs to keep them in line and under control.
Many of the Society workers have no true understanding of the child's mind so why are we allowing them to pass there judgments
on to our family units.
We believe without child psychology and experience on raising children the society workers do not have the proper degree to
say wether abuse has happened or not. All they have is a right to there opinion.
We are also aware that some parents will lie to protect their pride and ego's but that does not mean they all do. Why does
this always mean that the black paint bush covers us all and that the honest parents have to also suffer?
If you believe that someone outside the agency should have access to investigate complaints speak up now because the longer
we wait the more children go unheard.
Blessings
Angel Femia
and
Jesse Wilson
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